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Children and young people in out-of-home care often exhibit a range of behaviors that can be confusing, terrifying, infuriating, or exhausting for the adults supporting them. Understanding why they behave this way is crucial for providing effective support.

Children use behaviors as a form of communication to express their needs. These behaviors can be influenced by past traumas, unmet emotional or physical needs, or as a response to their environment. To help them meet their needs more positively, it is essential to adopt trauma-informed approaches. Such responses should focus on understanding and addressing the underlying needs driving the behaviors, while also teaching and encouraging alternative ways to communicate those needs. This approach helps create a supportive environment where children feel heard and understood, ultimately fostering healthier development and behavior.

Trauma-informed approaches for children involve understanding, recognizing, and responding to the effects of trauma. These approaches aim to create a supportive environment that promotes healing and growth. Here are some key elements:

1. Safety: Ensuring physical and emotional safety is fundamental. Create a predictable and stable environment where the child feels secure.
2. Trustworthiness and Transparency: Build trust through honest communication and clear expectations. Be consistent in actions and interactions.
3. Peer Support: Encourage connections with peers who have shared experiences, promoting mutual support and understanding.
4. Collaborative Relationships: Work jointly with the child, families, and other caregivers to develop strategies that meet the child’s needs. This includes involving them in decision-making processes as appropriate.
5. Empowerment, Voice, and Choice: Validate the child’s feelings and provide them with choices and opportunities to express themselves. Empower them to have a say in their care and support plan.
6. Cultural, Historical, and Gender Sensitivity: Respect and integrate the child’s cultural background into their care, being mindful of how cultural and historical factors may influence their experience of trauma.
7. Understanding Trauma: Educate caregivers and staff about the impacts of trauma and behavior as a form of communication. Training helps adults respond appropriately to children’s needs.
8. Resilience and Skill Building: Focus on building resilience by teaching coping skills, emotion regulation, and problem-solving. Reinforce positive behaviors and achievements.
9. Flexible and Individualized Support: Offer support that is tailored to each child’s unique experiences and needs, rather than using a one-size-fits-all approach.
10. Supportive and Engaging Environments: Create environments that are stimulating yet calming, with opportunities for play and exploration which are vital for healing and development.

By applying these principles, caregivers can create a nurturing environment that acknowledges past trauma and supports the child’s ongoing development and well-being.

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What Is Self-Love & Why Is It Important?

Self-love involves embracing your entire being—recognizing and accepting your strengths and weaknesses, triumphs and challenges, successes and mistakes. It is a healthy and stable self-concept based on your own ideas, observations, and values rather than the opinions and judgments of others.

Self-love is foundational to mental health and overall well-being. When you rely on others to define how you feel about yourself, you become more vulnerable to physical and mental health issues.

The benefits of self-love may include:

• Decreased anxiety and depression
• Reduced risk of substance use
• Improved physical health
• Increased success rates and goal achievement
• Lower fears of failure
• Stable self-worth
• Enhanced motivation, even in the face of challenges
• Improved relationships
• Healthier lifestyle choices (e.g., exercise, diet)
• Freedom from unhealthy dependencies on others for approval and validation
• The ability to set healthy boundaries
• Greater resilience to overcome obstacles, challenges, and stress

How to Cultivate Self-Love

1. Identify & Embrace Your Strengths
   Nurture self-love by overcoming your inner critic and identifying your strengths, talents, and positive traits. Doing so allows you to focus on these characteristics rather than dwelling on perceived faults, ultimately boosting your confidence.
   Davina Tiwari, MSW, RSW, CSFT, advises, “We often are our own worst self-critic, so it’s important to recognize our personal strengths and positive qualities. If you find this difficult, try writing down your ideas or asking a loved one what they admire most about you.”
2. Develop a Mindfulness Practice
   Mindfulness trains your mind to be present and engaged, reducing distractions caused by negative self-thoughts. This practice creates space to separate from unhelpful thoughts and choose healthier responses.
   Helpful mindfulness practices include:
   • Loving-kindness meditation: This technique involves repeating positive intentions for yourself.
   • RAIN: Developed by Michele McDonald and adapted by Tara Brach, this technique encourages you to Recognize thoughts and feelings, Accept them, Investigate them with curiosity, and Nurture them.
   • Sitting meditation: Focus on one thing, such as your breath or a word, to cultivate awareness.
   • Grounding techniques: These help you become more aware of the present by engaging your senses, thus distracting you from your inner critic.
3. Keep Comparisons in Check
   Comparing yourself to others is a common yet detrimental habit that undermines self-love. Such comparisons can divert your attention to perceived shortcomings. While comparison is a natural part of human behavior, you can mitigate its negative effects by:
   • Self-monitoring: Increase your awareness of when you compare yourself to others.
   • Redirecting: Shift your thoughts to something positive when you notice negative comparisons.
   • Reversing: Instead of focusing on what you lack, practice gratitude to appreciate what you have.
   • Zooming out: Reflect on your feelings, motivations, and needs to gain perspective on your choices and actions.
4. Set Healthy Boundaries
   Establishing healthy boundaries is crucial for self-love. Dr. Supriya Blair states, “Boundaries are ways we communicate with others about what we are willing and able to do.”
   Jennifer Shapiro-Lee, MSW, LCSW-R, adds, “Self-love involves understanding our boundaries and knowing when to say yes or no. When asked to do something, categorize it as something you have to do, should do, or don’t want to do, to prioritize your time and well-being.”
5. Set Small, Tangible Goals & Follow Through
   Identifying and accomplishing realistic goals is key to fostering self-love. Emily Griffin, MA, LCPC, explains, “Following through on goals builds self-worth. When we fail to keep promises, we learn to distrust ourselves. Following through fosters pride and fulfillment, supporting our overall mood.”
   Make your goals small and manageable to ensure follow-through.
6. Write Down Your Accomplishments & What You’re Proud Of
   Keep track of your progress and achievements. Emily Griffin suggests, “Make a nightly list of your accomplishments. Focusing on positives reduces negative self-talk and reinforces hope. This might include actions like managing your anger, maintaining boundaries, or spending less time on social media.”
7. Let Go of Shame & Be Your Authentic Self
   Accept yourself unconditionally to foster self-love. Living authentically involves sharing more of your true self—your feelings, beliefs, and experiences—without filters.
   Dian Grier, LCSW, reminds us, “Letting go of shame and living authentically is crucial for self-love. Concealing parts of ourselves can hinder our ability to love ourselves. By sharing our feelings with trusted individuals, we cultivate self-compassion and free ourselves to embrace our true selves.”
8. Love Yourself Unconditionally – No Strings Attached
   Many individuals impose “conditions” on their self-worth that dictate whether they can love and accept themselves. Hailey Shafir, LCMHCS, LPCS, LCAS, CCS, explains, “External circumstances often influence these fluctuations in self-love—we feel good about ourselves when we achieve a goal or receive praise, and we feel bad when we make a mistake, feel insecure, or let someone down.”
   To break free from this cycle, it’s crucial to stop tying your self-worth to any external factors, including events, relationships, material possessions, or even your own decisions.
   Just as you would with someone you love unconditionally (such as a child or partner), practice being kind to yourself, forgiving your mistakes, and letting go of imperfections. These steps create opportunities to eliminate any conditions or limitations on your self-love.
9. Practice Daily Affirmations
   Daily affirmations can be a simple yet powerful tool for building self-love and confidence. Kelly O’Sullivan, LCSW, suggests, “One of my favorite tips is to write out three affirmations that start with ‘I am,’ ‘I can,’ and ‘I will.’ Place these affirmations somewhere visible throughout the day—like on your laptop, water bottle, or bathroom mirror.”
10. Carve Out Time for Things That Feed Your Soul
    Self-love involves prioritizing activities that leave you feeling fulfilled, nourished, and restored. Silvi Saxena, MBA, MSW, LSW, CCTP, OSW-C, emphasizes, “Self-love and self-care are like watering our souls with the nutrition we need to grow and sustain ourselves. Just as we tend to our plants, we must nurture ourselves to thrive.”
    Ashley Kirkpatrick, MS, NCC, LPC, adds, “It’s essential to allocate time for yourself and engage in activities that feed your mind, body, and soul.”
    Davina Tiwari encourages, “Take time to do things that make you feel good, relaxed, comfortable, and happy. This might include pursuing a favorite hobby, connecting with loved ones, practicing meditation or yoga, or simply giving yourself permission to take time for yourself.”
11. Learn & Practice What Works for You
    Self-love is a skill that requires learning about yourself and what resonates with you. Ashley Stuck, LCSW, reminds us, “It is challenging to love yourself when you don’t know what you don’t know.” Just as we learn to walk and talk through practice and guidance, self-love also takes time and effort.
    It requires unlearning criticism and self-loathing and relearning self-love. While this journey may be difficult, the rewards are worth the effort.
12. Forgive Yourself for Past Mistakes
    A crucial step in cultivating self-love is allowing yourself to make mistakes. Gina Marie Guarino, LMHC, states, “Promoting self-love involves forgiving yourself for past mistakes. Remember that nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes, which can help you release feelings of grief.”
13. Interrupt Your Negative Thoughts
    Your inner dialogue significantly impacts your relationship with yourself. Many people experience a loud inner critic that questions and undermines their decisions. Courtney Kirkpatrick, MS, NCC, LPC, explains that this inner critic can poison your self-perception and hinder self-love.
    Instead of repeating self-critical thoughts, redirect your focus to a kinder, more supportive perspective. If you struggle to find a positive thought, try grounding yourself in the present moment by observing your surroundings or noticing physical sensations in your body.
14. Challenge Your Critical Beliefs
    Another essential tip is to challenge your inner critic. Kimberly Panganiban, LMFT, suggests asking yourself helpful questions when negative thoughts arise, such as: “Is this really true?”, “Could this be an opinion rather than a fact?”, “What evidence do I have that contradicts this belief?”
    These questions can help you confront negative thoughts and foster a gentler self-perception.
15. Practice Gratitude for Your Life
    It’s easy to dwell on negative aspects of yourself and your life, which can blind you to the things worthy of celebration. Practicing gratitude can shift this pattern, allowing you to focus on the positives.
    April Brown, LMFT, suggests writing down a list of qualities you value and appreciate about yourself, focusing on non-physical attributes. Consider asking a close family member what they value in you to gain perspective.
16. Do Things for Others
    Engaging in kind acts for others has been shown to enhance our overall well-being and happiness. When we feel helpful and appreciated, we are more likely to see ourselves positively. Over time, this can make it easier to love ourselves and recognize our own worth.
17. Connect With Positive People
    The individuals we surround ourselves with greatly influence our outlook. Building relationships with positive, supportive people can improve your self-perception and help you acknowledge your intrinsic value. These connections encourage you and reinforce your self-worth.
18. Take Care of Your Body & Mind
    Caring for yourself—both physically and mentally—is a vital aspect of self-love. Engaging in essential self-care routines, even the mundane ones, affirms that you deserve health, happiness, and positivity. Prioritizing your well-being enhances self-love and encourages you to discover new ways to nurture yourself.
19. Improve Your Self-Confidence
    As you begin to love and care for yourself, you will naturally cultivate healthier self-esteem and confidence. Hillary Thomas, LCSW, advises, “Explore the narratives others have created about you and evaluate whether they are true or false. Are you holding onto a negative story that hinders your self-acceptance? Letting go of past narratives liberates you to define yourself authentically. By uncovering these stories, you can gain clarity, increase self-compassion, and rewrite your own narrative.”
20. Set Realistic Expectations
    Unrealistic expectations often lead to disappointment, embarrassment, and shame when unmet. Setting achievable goals allows you to experience success and feel positive about your accomplishments, fostering a sense of progress and self-worth.
21. Heal Your Inner Child
    Much of our self-understanding is shaped during childhood. The unconditional love, encouragement, and safety we experienced as children significantly influence our current perceptions of ourselves and the world. Healing emotional wounds from childhood or addressing past trauma is crucial in learning to love yourself. Working through these issues with a therapist can facilitate this healing process.
22. Embrace Creativity
    A lack of a healthy internal relationship can lead to feelings of emotional disconnection. Engaging in creative activities—such as drawing, sculpting, singing, or dancing—can help you reconnect with your emotions and build self-love. Creativity provides an outlet for expression and self-discovery.

When to Seek Professional Help

Mental health professionals are available to assist individuals in navigating a wide range of challenges, including low self-esteem. Many people seek therapy specifically to enhance their self-esteem and self-worth, as therapists can help them address issues related to perfectionism and cultivate greater self-compassion.

If you’re struggling with self-esteem or related concerns, contact Point to Point Counselling (PTPC) today to discuss your situation further.

Ref. T.J. Peterson and B. Troy (MD)

In short:

A psychiatrist is a medical doctor who specializes in diagnosing and treating mental health conditions. A psychiatrist can prescribe medication.

A psychologist is not a medical doctor and can’t prescribe medication. Psychologists use treatments and tools like psychological testing to inform strategies for therapy.

A Counsellor is not a medical doctor and can’t prescribe medication. Counsellors tend to adopt a more person-centred approach for therapy.

Therapy takes place over a longer period and tends to delve into various facets of a person and their being.

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What is Root Cause Therapy?

Root Cause Therapy is a type of complementary medicine that is based on the belief that many health problems can be traced back to an underlying physical or emotional cause. By identifying and addressing the root cause, it is believed that symptoms and other health problems will improve or even disappear altogether.

Root Cause Therapy works on all levels of consciousness to address mental, physical, emotional and spiritual blockages that cause disharmony in your body. It is based on Guided Self-Healing (GSH), a powerful mind-body intervention that tracks down the root cause of any physical or energetic blockage.

How Does Root Cause Therapy Work?

Combining elements of talk therapy and cognitive behavioural therapy, Root Cause Therapy takes a comprehensive approach to addressing a wide range of conditions. The steps vary depending on the practitioner, but they generally consist of three steps, which are as follows:

1. Identifying the root cause: This step involves working with a practitioner to identify any potential root causes of your health problems. 
2. Addressing the root cause: Once the root cause has been identified, the appropriate steps will be taken to address it. This stage may involve guided imagery, breathwork and regression techniques.
3. Continued support: Once you have started on your Root Cause Therapy journey, it is important to receive continued support from your therapist. This can help you stay on track and ensure that you are making progress towards your goals.

What are the Benefits of Root Cause Therapy?

Receiving Root Cause Therapy has lots of advantages. For one thing, it allows you to clear your mind and consciously identify your negative thinking and behaviour patterns. It is not necessary to be unconscious or asleep in order to address the negative contents of your subconscious mind. Additionally, there is some scientific evidence to back up claims that Root Cause Therapy can help with a variety of health issues, including:

• Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
• Low self-esteem
• Allergies
• Heavy metal toxicity
• Chronic pain
• Digestive disorders
• Fatigue
• Anxiety
• Depression
• Arthritis
• Chronic fatigue
• Cancer
• Skin conditions
• Insomnia
• Addiction or substance abuse
• Relationship conflicts
• Suicidal thoughts

What Can You Expect From Root Cause Therapy?

If you are interested in trying root cause therapy, there are a few things you should know before getting started.

Root cause therapy sessions can span one or more hours. During this time, you will be asked questions about your health history, lifestyle habits, and any other relevant information. It is important to be honest and open in order to get the most out of the session.

It’s important to understand that Root Cause Therapy is not a quick fix. It’s not like taking a pill and having the symptoms go away only to return after a few hours or days later. It takes time for the body to recover and resume normal function. Because your symptoms developed gradually, it will take time to reverse the process.

The frequency of your treatment sessions will be determined by the condition you are treating. Following the initial treatment, your therapist will discuss with you on the frequency and following visits.

Is Root Cause Therapy Safe?

Root Cause Therapy is a safe and effective treatment option for many people. However, it is always important to consult with your primary healthcare provider before starting any type of new treatment. It can be an effective way to improve your health and wellbeing.

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